My name is Katherine, I have been with my boyfriend for 5months now and I am really happy with him. He is the best thing to happen to me and treats me just like a girl should be treated. When we started dating, my family wanted to meet him the moment they got to know about him.

He was honest with me and told me that we were barely dating and that he usually waited a couple of months before meeting the family, which I thought was okay because at least he had made an effort to meet my mother (plus driving 3 hours just to spend a few hours at my house). My mom liked him and said she thought he was really nice.

My oldest brother is the only one that has not yet met him. My oldest brother wants to meet him and there has been two times when I have tried to pressure my boyfriend to go and meet him which I have felt bad for trying to force him, but at the same time I feel pressured by my family to do so.

Now my mom see’s him different, she says ” when a guy is serious about you he will want to meet the entire family”. I told her “that’s the way you see it, but every person is different plus we are still getting to know each other”.

I have made my mother to know how my boyfriend feels about the pressure and the fact that he stand by the words “no one is going to force him to do something he doesn’t want to do”.

Maybe some day soon my oldest brother will come down to visit the same time my boyfriend does and they will surely meet.  I  am worried since my Mum is developing some massive dislike for my boyfriend as a result of him failing to go and see my older brother and the rest of the family. Please advise me!

Katherine

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Dear Katherine,

As you pointed out there are a few things your boyfriend has probably done as a new couple sooner than you both may have planned. You seemed to have partly redeemed the situation by accepting your boyfriend’s decision to let meeting the rest of your family happen in due course!

The one thing you should not try doing is to try and please everyone. It’s not realistic nor is it possible. You will only end up feeling fed up and tired. This      would be a shame if that happend as you sound happy with all other aspects of the relationship.

Avoid letting this issue overrun your relationship.  If you feel ok with your boyfriend’s decision, stick to your guns and don’t buckle under your family’s pressure.

My advice is not to bring this up with your boyfriend again. He will think you are nagging him. This will only push him away. After all your dating life is a snap shot of your possible married life together.

When your family asks about it again, repeat what you have said already “no one is going to force him to do something he doesn’t want to do “.

Your family is pushing you because they feel they can. If you start out like this it will continue right through your relationship, with you as the centre of the drama.

It’s obvious your mother is only thinking of a secure future for you but once in a while you have to take the lead and make your own choices.

Best of Luck!

God Bless.

Ms. A.K  from GC XXX

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